I can’t change the way you think. I know that already. But please, promise me this one thing: if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Or, if you really must say something, might I urge you to once again make like Amy Poehler and start shouting the phrase, “Good for you, not for me” from the rooftops.
Because, as I noted previously, “good for you, not for me” celebrates both difference and an assertion of self, making it the ideal response to someone else’s life choices. Because, obviously, we are all different – and we all have very different ideas about what we should be doing with our lives. So what if someone you’ve never met has made the decision to have a baby, or get engaged to her boyfriend, or whatever the fuck she wants? So what? How does that impact your life, really?
It doesn’t. And, while you might swear that you’d never ever make the same decisions as Dewan, that doesn’t make her choices any less valid. Good for her, not for you – right?
In just six little words, we can build one another up, rather than tear one another down. And that, in today’s age of negativity, is no small thing.